Family Focus: Emotional Support and Coping Strategies
Divorce is a big change, and it’s normal for your kids to feel a mix of emotions—sadness, anger, confusion, relief, or even guilt. These feelings can come and go or feel all consuming at times. The good news is that there are ways to cope and find support through the divorce process.
Common Emotions Kids Experience During Divorce
Every child reacts differently to divorce, but some of the most common emotions include:
- Sadness – Missing a parent when they’re not around or feeling like things will never be the same.
- Anger – Feeling frustrated, hurt, or mad about the situation.
- Confusion – Not understanding why parents are separating or how life will change.
- Guilt – Wondering if they did something wrong to cause the divorce.
- Anxiety – Worrying about the future, new living arrangements, or how things will change.
No feeling is “wrong,” and it’s okay for them to experience several different emotions at various times throughout the divorce journey.
How Kids Can Express Feelings in a Healthy Way
Keeping emotions bottled up can make things harder, so finding ways to talk about feelings is important. Here are some helpful ways you can help your kids express themselves and feel better:
Talk to Someone – A parent, trusted adult, friend, or counselor can help kids work through their feelings.
Write or Draw – Journaling, drawing, or writing letters (even if they’re never sent) can be a great emotional outlet.
Use Words Instead of Actions – It’s okay to feel angry, but expressing it through talking or activities (like running or playing a sport) is healthier than lashing out.
Take Deep Breaths – Simple breathing exercises or mindfulness techniques can help kids calm feelings of anxiety or stress.
Building Resilience & Coping Skills
Even though divorce is a difficult experience, your kids can learn to be strong and resilient. Here are some ways to help them cope and stay positive:
Stick to a Routine – Keeping a daily schedule (school, hobbies, bedtime, etc.) can create a sense of stability.
Do Things That Bring Them Joy – Reading, playing a sport, making art, or spending time with friends can help take the focus off stress.
Focus on the Present – Instead of worrying about the future, reminding kids to stay present in the moment can help them feel more in control.
It’s Okay to Ask for Help When Needed – Talking to a trusted adult can make a huge difference in feeling supported.
When to Seek Additional Support
If feelings of sadness, anger, or anxiety become too overwhelming, it’s okay to ask for extra support. A school counselor, therapist, or support group can provide guidance and tools to help kids through this transition.
A Final Thought
Final Thought
Divorce can feel like a rollercoaster of emotions, but it’s okay to feel what you feel. Over time, things get easier, and with the right support and coping tools, kids can adjust, grow, and thrive.