Kids Corner: Emotional Support and Coping Strategies
Divorce is a big change, and it’s normal for kids to feel a mix of emotions—sadness, anger, confusion, relief, or even guilt. These feelings can come and go or feel all consuming at times. The good news is that there are ways to cope and find support through the divorce process.
Common Emotions Kids Experience During Divorce
Every child reacts differently to divorce, but some of the most common emotions include:
- Sadness – Missing a parent when they’re not around or feeling like things will never be the same.
- Anger – Feeling frustrated, hurt, or mad about the situation.
- Confusion – Not understanding why parents are separating or how life will change.
- Guilt – Wondering if they did something wrong to cause the divorce.
- Anxiety – Worrying about the future, new living arrangements, or how things will change.
No feeling is “wrong,” and it’s okay to experience several different emotions at various times throughout the divorce journey.
How to Express Feelings in a Healthy Way
Keeping emotions bottled up can make things harder, so finding ways to talk about feelings is important. Here are some helpful ways kids can express themselves and feel better:
Talk to Someone
A parent, trusted adult, friend, or counselor can help kids work through their feelings.
Write or Draw
Journaling, drawing, or writing letters (even if they’re never sent) can be a great emotional outlet.
Use Words Instead of Actions
It’s okay to feel angry, but expressing it through talking or activities (like running or playing a sport) is healthier than lashing out.
Take Deep Breaths
Simple breathing exercises or mindfulness techniques can help calm feelings of anxiety or stress.
Building Resilience and Coping Skills
Even though divorce is a difficult experience, kids can learn to be strong and resilient. Here are some ways to cope and stay positive:
Stick to a Routine
Keeping a daily schedule (school, hobbies, bedtime, etc.) can create a sense of stability.
Do Things That Bring Joy
Reading, playing a sport, making art, or spending time with friends can help take the focus off stress.
Focus on the Present
Instead of worrying about the future, staying present in the moment can help kids feel more in control.
Ask for Help When Needed
Talking to a trusted adult can make a huge difference in feeling supported.
When to Seek Additional Support
If feelings of sadness, anger, or anxiety become too overwhelming, it’s okay to ask for extra support. A school counselor, therapist, or support group can provide guidance and tools to help kids through this transition.
Final Thought
Divorce can feel like a rollercoaster of emotions, but it’s okay to feel what you feel. Over time, things get easier, and with the right support and coping tools, kids can adjust, grow, and thrive.