Onward Tips: What to say to someone who just finalized their divorce.
When someone has just finalized their divorce, they may be feeling a mix of emotions—relief, sadness, fear, or even uncertainty about what comes next. The key is to offer support without making assumptions or pushing them to feel a certain way. Here’s what you might say, depending on their emotional state and the nature of your relationship with them.
“I know how tough it’s been for you, and I really admire your strength through all of this. Take things one step at a time.”
“I’m so sorry you had to go through this, but I’m proud of how you’ve handled it. You’re going to be okay.”
“If you want a distraction, some company, or just a good laugh, I’m always here.”
“I can imagine this is both a relief and a difficult chapter to close. I’m here for you, no matter how you’re feeling.”
“You’ve made it through something incredibly challenging, and I believe in your ability to find happiness and peace again. You’ve got this.”
“It’s been a tough road, but I know you have the strength to rebuild and create a future that’s exactly what you need.”
“You’ve gone through so much, and I really admire how strong you’ve been. Now, it’s time for you to focus on you and what comes next.”
“You’ve handled this with such grace and strength. I can’t wait to see you thrive in this new chapter.”
“I know you just finalized the divorce. I feel like saying “Congrats!” but I’m not sure that’s appropriate. Tell me what I could say to you to acknowledge this big step.”
What to Avoid:
- Making assumptions: For example, saying something like “Now you can start dating again!” might feel premature or pressure-filled; OR “Congratulations!” because you might not know if they are happy or sad about their Divorce. Instead, focus on their present feelings and needs.
- Downplaying their emotions: Phrases like “At least it’s over now” or “You’re free” can sometimes feel dismissive if they’re still grieving or processing the situation.
- Blaming or speaking negatively about their ex: Even if the divorce was difficult, avoid bad-mouthing their former partner unless they specifically ask for that kind of conversation.