The First 5 Steps After Being Served Divorce Papers

1. Read Everything Carefully
Review every page so you understand precisely what’s being requested (custody, support, property division). Don’t just skim — highlight key terms, deadlines, and anything you don’t understand.

2. Note Your Deadline to Respond
Most states require a formal response within 20–30 days. Check the exact date and mark it in your calendar (with a reminder a week before). Missing it can mean losing your right to contest the terms.

3. Gather Key Documents
Start pulling together financial records* (bank statements, tax returns, pay stubs), property deeds, and parenting schedules. Having them ready will save you time, stress, and legal fees.

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4. Get Legal Advice Early
Even if you can’t or don’t want to hire a lawyer to help you through the full divorce process, consider scheduling a consultation with one to understand your rights and your options. Many attorneys offer flat-fee or even free initial sessions.

5. Take Care of Yourself
Being served divorce papers can be emotional. Make time for self-care. Call a supportive friend, connect with a counselor, or join a divorce support group. You’ll think more clearly when you’re not in panic mode.